Yui, my college friend, and I took a trip home together. We had planned this since last year. We just want to visit our family and go to the 75th Anniversary Celebration of College of Architecture, Chlalongkorn University. Then Nithi invited us to visit him in Phuket. With Ada's accident, at first I was about to cancel the trip but then my father passed away, so the trip back to the funeral was a must. Without Ardis, I won't be able to make this trip.
I was glad that Yui was with me. She comforted me through the whole trip making sure I was Ok. At Phuket, Nithi had arranged to have 8 more friends joined us at the private resort. We had a great time, eating, sleeping, talking and laughing. As promised, Nithi gave us a front row seat at the beach to watch the sunset. I picked up some pretty shells on the beach, just like I always did when I was a little kid.
Today I received an e-mail from Nithi and his beautiful wife. Another promise that we will bring Ada with us on the next trip to Phuket.
Back in bangkok, I had many more dinner with friends who had heard about Ada and wanted to help in any way they could. I was overwhelmed by all the support and love I got from all my friends who, some of them, I haven't seen for 25 years. Friends are always friends, forever. The funeral was beautiful. My brother took care of everything. We had a traditional Thai dance performed during the ceremony. It was an honor for my brother and I that the King of Thailand had given a permission to place my dad's body in a special coffin. It was the higest honor any common could have received. He also given us a Royal fire to start the cremation. The next morning , we gathered the ash and took it to the SeChung island where we spread my dad's ash into the sea. The same place we did with my mom's ash. They finally are together again. You can see in the picture, my nephew had become a monk in honor of his grandpa. Tao is getting married on June 21st. I felt bad that he won't have time to grow back his hair, but he looks handsome anyway. His fiance is Japanese. He also starts building a small house behind our old house in Bangkok.
I went shopping, eating and met more friends and had a great time until I realized that I had booked my flight from JFK on the wrong day. And Ardis made me do it (LOL), she changed my flight and I got to spend 3 days in Hong Kong with Yui and her friend. She also wanted to send me to Australia to see Ting, but we will do that next year.
I am leaving you with the amazing view of downtown Hong Kong. I did a little shopping, mostly buying Jade pendants so I can make a beautiful necklaces with them. Yui and I spent most of the time walking and admiring the beautiful buildings designed by the famous Architects like I. M. Pei and Norman Foster. Thanks Mui and James, Yui's friend, an exceptional hosts. They invited us to join their family for a dinner at a restaurant. After dinner,Yui and I swore that we will not eat any more Chinese food after we go back to the State. Why? Because the food was so delicious, we want to remember the taste of real Chinese food until next time. Well, I am home now and spend the whole day with Ada. She looks happy and healthy. With her hair all clean up, she smells like a baby, like Ada. I am happy to be back, fully charged and happy and ready for anything else that life would throw at me. "Be a good, a strong woman" I always tell Ada and together we will be. Phuket 2008'>"Bang Tao Beach, Phuket Island" Grandpa's funeral'>"Grandpa's funeral" Hong Kong'>"Hong Kong"
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Ponsawan, Of all the beautiful pictures the one I love the most is of you sitting on the beach..it is how I envisioned it when I thought of you in Phuket. Yes,I was here to for you and Ada on this side of the ocean but it was Yui and all your old friends that put the final touches on your trip of a lifetime. If one measures riches by the friendships you have...then you are a very wealthy woman. You have passed along to Ada the greatest gift a mother can give her daughter..to be a good and strong woman, it is a lesson that will serve you both well in the future. Keep all these good memories close to your heart and recall them when you need to find the strength in the future.
Thank you for your post. It has filled my spirit and completed this trip of ours.
Koa's promise for you and Ada gave me a beautiful vision. If anyone can make a dream come through for a friend; it would be Kao. I now see Ada enjoying another spectecular sunset with us and this time she will remind us to dip our feet in that Andaman sea. I can't believe Ponsawan and I forgot to do that.
You are very generous sharing your stories and pictures of your beutiful memories with us. You have no idea how many people read this blog and will be delighted to hear that you come back fully recharged, and with you they will enjoy magnificent beaches, they will feel honoured to witness the majestic funeral of your father. It's all beautiful. Thank you Ponsawan. And it is marvellous how you can sum up your two weeks full of great events in a message with a few photos. This is the best Executive Summary, if this trip was a research project. It makes people want to read more details. There are so many people to thank for this. After all we are one family for Ada, aren't we?
This is a blog for my daughter, Ada Silapiruti. Together we will celebrate her life as a good daughter, a good sister, a good student, and a good friend. We will write about her past, her present and her future. Some day when she wakes up, she can learn about herself, about her life, about her family, and about her friends who will continue to love her and support her.
Ada was in a tragic car accident on March, 2008. She was on her way to Broad Ripple to pick up a friend who was drunk but her car got hit by the drunk driver. She is lucky to be alive but suffers a severe brain damage. Ada is now living at home with her family and her nurses who help taking care of her. She is making progress everyday, small, but a giant step for her. She is able to walk with the walker and eating solid food. She smiles and laughes a lot. Come by to say hello, may be she still remember you.
9/20/08 Now that Ada is home. I will not be blogging as often. She is strong and healthy, not too many things, health wise, to worry about. If you want to visit her, please call me at 640-7096. We should be at home, and hopefully she will get to go to RHI for therapy soon.
6/23/08 We went to see Dr. Callahan today. He is Dr. Jude replacement. Needless to say, they are just the same. May be this is so typical for Neuro doctor to act this way. We had scheduled Ada to have her bone flap put back on Thursday, July 3rd. I was laughing because I used to metion that we will get the best view of the firework display on 4th of July from the roof top of Methodist Hospital and we will be there. Ada will love that. Some say that many patients do get better after putting the flap back on. We sure hope so.
6/8/08 Back at the nursing home now, I trying to learn the new feeding and her med schedule. Ada get a slow feeding from 8 to 8 so when she has to go somewhere, she won't miss the feeding. She actually gains 2 lbs this month. She can communicate through her eyes and she makes all kind of faces to let you know how she feels or what she wants. Can't wait to see what she can do next week.
6/1/08 I made a mistake on my airline reservation, so I will stop in Hong Kong with Yui for a couple of days. I'll be home on Thursday, I promise.
5/15/08 Here is the address for American Village 2026 East 54th Street, Indianapolis, In 46220 If you want to visit Ada, please me a call (317) 640-7096 or call Ardis at (317) 871-4800 I will be gone for 2 weeks but feel free to come by or bring lunch to Ardis
4/4/08 We settled down at American Village this afternoon. She got her private room and they rearranged the furniture just for her. She seems to be more carm and peaceful. Strang place to be for me since I have nerver been to the nursing home before. I hope they take good care of Ada.
4/1/08 Ada moved into room 4039 on the 4th floor today. It is a step down. No monitor in her room which means no more munber to worry about. She is not in critical condition any more. It is more laid back on this floor. I got a roll bed to sleep on. Slepping on the chair for a month, I'm not sure I can sleep well tonight. Tomorrow I will visit a few nursing homes to see if they will accept Ada.
4/1/08 Yesterday they told me that Ada will be moving to 5th Floor, Neuro unit, but she might go down to 4th floor today. Who knows, may be the nurses on the 4th floor heard about the candy. We have to look for the place for Ada to stay after she gets out of the hospital. She can't go to Rehab yet, a nursing home, may be. This is very fustrated and confusing process, I just want to take her home. She is doing fine today.
3/31/08 It had been a month already and we are still waiting for Ada. She can be completely off the vent or oxygen at this point. This is good for her but we run into the problem that she won't be qualified to go to Seton. We have to find another facilities for her, may be Rehab Center. One thing is, they won't throw her out of the hospital, promise. Ada moves her right hand and fingers more. I am working on it, she must be tried of hearing me telling her to move her fingers by now. Various music from several IPods are playing all day. I also read out loud from Win's book, and Abby comes in the evening to read Harry Potter to her.
3/28/08 Friday afternoon and Ada is breathing on her own without the ventilator. The nurse also put her up on a chair. Kudo for Jennifer, she is brave enought to do this with the help of other nurses on 6th floor. Everyone is so happy including Ada. :) More good news tomorrow, I hope.
3/28/08 She slept well last night, must be some medicine they gave her. This morning she moves her right arms and her right hand more. Left arm will be trapped in the splint off and on all day. She also be able to breath on her own more and more. No word of when we will be moving to Seton.
3/27/08 The brain is still swallon, so no surgery this week. Imagine having one surgery each week, I don't think people my age can handle that. She is strong and fighting. The nurse gave her a bath today, so was sleeping peacefully while I left.
3/26/08 The doctor took all of the staples out of her head today. She was pretty mad, I can tell. They took her down for c-scan, she might get her flap back on her skull on Friday. Which mean another round of staples on her head. Her left arm is getting stiff, so the adjustable cast will be put in her arm to keep it straight. We need to start excercise her arms, other than that, she is pretty much the same, may be more alert. Seton will have a bed for her pretty soon so we can move out of the hospital. Maybe early next week. Hugs Ponsawan
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Ponsawan,
Of all the beautiful pictures the one I love the most is of you sitting on the beach..it is how I envisioned it when I thought of you in Phuket. Yes,I was here to for you and Ada on this side of the ocean but it was Yui and all your old friends that put the final touches on your trip of a lifetime. If one measures riches by the friendships you have...then you are a very wealthy woman. You have passed along to Ada the greatest gift a mother can give her daughter..to be a good and strong woman, it is a lesson that will serve you both well in the future. Keep all these good memories close to your heart and recall them when you need to find the strength in the future.
Love,
Ardis
Ponsawan,
Thank you for your post. It has filled my spirit and completed this trip of ours.
Koa's promise for you and Ada gave me a beautiful vision. If anyone can make a dream come through for a friend; it would be Kao. I now see Ada enjoying another spectecular sunset with us and this time she will remind us to dip our feet in that Andaman sea. I can't believe Ponsawan and I forgot to do that.
Love,
Yui
You are very generous sharing your stories and pictures of your beutiful memories with us. You have no idea how many people read this blog and will be delighted to hear that you come back fully recharged, and with you they will enjoy magnificent beaches, they will feel honoured to witness the majestic funeral of your father. It's all beautiful.
Thank you Ponsawan.
And it is marvellous how you can sum up your two weeks full of great events in a message with a few photos. This is the best Executive Summary, if this trip was a research project.
It makes people want to read more details.
There are so many people to thank for this. After all we are one family for Ada, aren't we?
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