Saturday, May 9, 2009


On Monday, May 5 th, we went to Clarian West in Avon for Ada's surgery to remove the kidney stones. It is a bit far away from home. Not sure why they sent us there.We usually go to Methodist Hospital here, downtown. Staying at Clarian west is like having a vacation at 5 star hotel. All the rooms are private, very roomy with flat screen TV, DVD player, small fridge and wooden laminate floor. A courtyard in the middle with ponds and waterfall, home of the mommy and daddy duck with 12 ducklings.
The surgery went well, the nurse came out to get me she said Ada was doing good for 45 min. then started throwing a fist. She said may be I can calm her down. I went in recovery room and tell them I've never seen her like this before; kicking and trying to pull all of the tubes that were adhered to her body. I'll be mad too so "Give her some drug" I said.
She was sleepless all night and we had to give her couple more doses of pain killer. She was calmer in the morning, just laid there half asleep. The nurse offer to clean her up and put her on the chair. I went down stair to get some lunch, came back and sat down beside her. Suddenly, her eyes had turn to the right and she did not response to me calling her. Her face was pale, yellow-greenish. I was panic, scare and not sure what had happened to her. I thought I had lost her, again.
They must have call Code Blue. Suddenly 10 people rushed into the room. I sat down and broke down and cried. I called Terry and told him to come, now. They took Ada to the Critical Care Unit, she had a seizure, a big scarely one. Everyone told me she is going to be ok. Finally everything was under controlled. Watching her, laying there, with the an orange plastic tube sticking down her throat, the breathing machine, the monitor that beeps when something is not quite right. They even put a pig lines on her left arm so all the IV and Med can be served at the same time.
I sat down, quietly with pen and my sketch book and started my drawing. It keeps me calm and my mind get busy with something else. I can't be angry or scare or give up. I need to be strong for Ada.
She slept most of the time. Finally, her face turn pink again. Everything is back to normal but I still have the scarely thought sometime. Is it normal for her to have seizure like this or is it because she did not have her seizure medicine for 36 hours? May be the combination of stress and medications that they gave her had caused this? Is there a "How to take care of a love one with severe brain Injury" for Dummy? I hate it when the doctor told me that it is "normal" for a person with her condition to have this. Then tell me all the possible "normal" things that can happen so we can prevent it.
Ada is home now with a hole on her back from the surgery. She is happy and still sleeps a lot. Her nurses rushed in to give her shower so she won't smell like hospital.
May be this is going to be "Normal" way of life for us. I watch "Michael J. Fox" Special on TV. I got inspired by what he said; "Just be happy for what you have". I will try that.
A few nurses at Clarian West were deeply care for Ada. Funny how all the nurses can tell that she gave them "the look" after they came in and mess with her. May be we should stick with Methodist hospital and Dr. Biggerstaff.
I just realized how strong I am and how strong I have to be. Giving up is not the option. Through this journey, I lost a few friends but gain so many.
Now I need a break and will report back when Ada starts walking again.
Bye for now.


Ting said...

My dear Ponsawan and Ada,

It's five days after the surgery. I hope Ada is well recovered from the surgery and I hope you have had a good rest.

I'm sorry you had gone through a terrible time post surgery at the hospital. I could feel how scared you were, Ponsawan, and how you coped in the situation was extraordinary. I like what you said, 'giving up is not an option'. That's You.

Please keep up your strength. Many thousand hands are holding your hand, supporting you in every way we can.

Today is your day, Ponsawan, Mother's Day. You have lifted the definition of motherhood to a new level. We adore you. Happy Mother's Day, my dear friend.

Anonymous said...

Ditto, Ting! Ponsawani, you can do are strong and will always be there for Ada. There are things in life that you cannot change or have control of, but you can still be happy for the things you have, for Ada's life and all what she is learning...There will always be bends and rocks along the way...but you are strong and we are here for are never alone. Happy Mother's Day!

Love and hugs, F&M

Anonymous said...

I don't know anyone who is more deserving of this than you, Ponsawan: happy mother's day. In my eyes you are the mother only some of us could wish to have.

cbarniak said...

stay strong. happy belated mother's day. i love you both

cu#1835024 said...


Congrats on your youngest son's HS graduation and happy be-lated Mother's day.

Friends are right; you are the best mother and you inspire us all.

I am scared just reading your post. I can't comprehend what it is like to be there facing these challenges everyday.

Daniel and I will visit you Indiana hopefully soon. NC Governor Purdue is working on furlough for State employees for next fiscal year (budget crisis). I think I will have more free time to drive up after July 1.


WonderfulWire said...

Bless you Pons... I send you hugs... you are a wonderful mother...