We went to see Neuro Psychologist at Rehab Clinic a few weeks ago. Everyone there was so excited to see Ada. After a long conversation, I told her that Ada can express more emotion; angry, frustration and fear, and that she always look for me when she get frustrated with something, so I always get the worse of her. Dr. suggested that I "back off" and be her mom and try not to be her therapist. I should try to get out of the house more and let Ada's nurse work with her, which usually works better when I am not around anyway.
My problem is I just can't leave her alone, always thinking that there must be something else that I can do. Since she does not get therapy except with Speech Pathologist once a month, I feel like it is up to me to help her, work with her, but may be I am wrong. In order for me to be able to take care of Ada for a long, long time, we need a break from each other.
It is not as easy as it sound, but I am thinking about moving my work table which in front of her room some where else, so I can be away when I am suppose to be away. May be I can use the room up stair when Archie moves back to Bloomington.
There are a few problems that we have to deal with this past month. First, she doesn't eat that much Cheerios like she used to, so I have to replace it with something else, second, what goes in does not always comes out. Then she has the red eye that we thought from her scratching it but it went away then came back for a day, then went away again. Always something.
Other than that she continues to boss us around and we love it when she does that.
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This is a blog for my daughter, Ada Silapiruti. Together we will celebrate her life as a good daughter, a good sister, a good student, and a good friend. We will write about her past, her present and her future. Some day when she wakes up, she can learn about herself, about her life, about her family, and about her friends who will continue to love her and support her.
Ada was in a tragic car accident on March, 2008. She was on her way to Broad Ripple to pick up a friend who was drunk but her car got hit by the drunk driver. She is lucky to be alive but suffers a severe brain damage.
Ada is now living at home with her family and her nurses who help taking care of her. She is making progress everyday, small, but a giant step for her. She is able to walk with the walker and eating solid food. She smiles and laughes a lot. Come by to say hello, may be she still remember you.
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This is a blog for my daughter, Ada Silapiruti. Together we will celebrate her life as a good daughter, a good sister, a good student, and a good friend. We will write about her past, her present and her future. Some day when she wakes up, she can learn about herself, about her life, about her family, and about her friends who will continue to love her and support her.
Ada was in a tragic car accident on March, 2008. She was on her way to Broad Ripple to pick up a friend who was drunk but her car got hit by the drunk driver. She is lucky to be alive but suffers a severe brain damage.
Ada is now living at home with her family and her nurses who help taking care of her. She is making progress everyday, small, but a giant step for her. She is able to walk with the walker and eating solid food. She smiles and laughes a lot. Come by to say hello, may be she still remember you.
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UPDATE ON ADA
9/20/08
Now that Ada is home. I will not be blogging as often. She is strong and healthy, not too many things, health wise, to worry about. If you want to visit her, please call me at 640-7096. We should be at home, and hopefully she will get to go to RHI for therapy soon.
6/23/08
We went to see Dr. Callahan today. He is Dr. Jude replacement. Needless to say, they are just the same. May be this is so typical for Neuro doctor to act this way. We had scheduled Ada to have her bone flap put back on Thursday, July 3rd. I was laughing because I used to metion that we will get the best view of the firework display on 4th of July from the roof top of Methodist Hospital and we will be there. Ada will love that. Some say that many patients do get better after putting the flap back on. We sure hope so.
6/8/08
Back at the nursing home now, I trying to learn the new feeding and her med schedule. Ada get a slow feeding from 8 to 8 so when she has to go somewhere, she won't miss the feeding. She actually gains 2 lbs this month. She can communicate through her eyes and she makes all kind of faces to let you know how she feels or what she wants. Can't wait to see what she can do next week.
6/1/08
I made a mistake on my airline reservation, so I will stop in Hong Kong with Yui for a couple of days. I'll be home on Thursday, I promise.
5/15/08
Here is the address for American Village
2026 East 54th Street, Indianapolis, In 46220
If you want to visit Ada, please me a call (317) 640-7096 or call Ardis at (317) 871-4800
I will be gone for 2 weeks but feel free to come by or bring lunch to Ardis
4/4/08
We settled down at American Village this afternoon. She got her private room and they rearranged the furniture just for her. She seems to be more carm and peaceful. Strang place to be for me since I have nerver been to the nursing home before. I hope they take good care of Ada.
4/1/08
Ada moved into room 4039 on the 4th floor today. It is a step down. No monitor in her room which means no more munber to worry about. She is not in critical condition any more. It is more laid back on this floor. I got a roll bed to sleep on. Slepping on the chair for a month, I'm not sure I can sleep well tonight. Tomorrow I will visit a few nursing homes to see if they will accept Ada.
4/1/08
Yesterday they told me that Ada will be moving to 5th Floor, Neuro unit, but she might go down to 4th floor today. Who knows, may be the nurses on the 4th floor heard about the candy. We have to look for the place for Ada to stay after she gets out of the hospital. She can't go to Rehab yet, a nursing home, may be. This is very fustrated and confusing process, I just want to take her home.
She is doing fine today.
3/31/08
It had been a month already and we are still waiting for Ada. She can be completely off the vent or oxygen at this point. This is good for her but we run into the problem that she won't be qualified to go to Seton. We have to find another facilities for her, may be Rehab Center. One thing is, they won't throw her out of the hospital, promise.
Ada moves her right hand and fingers more. I am working on it, she must be tried of hearing me telling her to move her fingers by now.
Various music from several IPods are playing all day. I also read out loud from Win's book, and Abby comes in the evening to read Harry Potter to her.
3/28/08
Friday afternoon and Ada is breathing on her own without the ventilator. The nurse also put her up on a chair. Kudo for Jennifer, she is brave enought to do this with the help of other nurses on 6th floor. Everyone is so happy including Ada. :)
More good news tomorrow, I hope.
3/28/08
She slept well last night, must be some medicine they gave her. This morning she moves her right arms and her right hand more. Left arm will be trapped in the splint off and on all day. She also be able to breath on her own more and more. No word of when we will be moving to Seton.
3/27/08
The brain is still swallon, so no surgery this week. Imagine having one surgery each week, I don't think people my age can handle that. She is strong and fighting. The nurse gave her a bath today, so was sleeping peacefully while I left.
3/26/08
The doctor took all of the staples out of her head today. She was pretty mad, I can tell. They took her down for c-scan, she might get her flap back on her skull on Friday. Which mean another round of staples on her head. Her left arm is getting stiff, so the adjustable cast will be put in her arm to keep it straight. We need to start excercise her arms, other than that, she is pretty much the same, may be more alert.
Seton will have a bed for her pretty soon so we can move out of the hospital. Maybe early next week.
Hugs
Ponsawan
Now that Ada is home. I will not be blogging as often. She is strong and healthy, not too many things, health wise, to worry about. If you want to visit her, please call me at 640-7096. We should be at home, and hopefully she will get to go to RHI for therapy soon.
6/23/08
We went to see Dr. Callahan today. He is Dr. Jude replacement. Needless to say, they are just the same. May be this is so typical for Neuro doctor to act this way. We had scheduled Ada to have her bone flap put back on Thursday, July 3rd. I was laughing because I used to metion that we will get the best view of the firework display on 4th of July from the roof top of Methodist Hospital and we will be there. Ada will love that. Some say that many patients do get better after putting the flap back on. We sure hope so.
6/8/08
Back at the nursing home now, I trying to learn the new feeding and her med schedule. Ada get a slow feeding from 8 to 8 so when she has to go somewhere, she won't miss the feeding. She actually gains 2 lbs this month. She can communicate through her eyes and she makes all kind of faces to let you know how she feels or what she wants. Can't wait to see what she can do next week.
6/1/08
I made a mistake on my airline reservation, so I will stop in Hong Kong with Yui for a couple of days. I'll be home on Thursday, I promise.
5/15/08
Here is the address for American Village
2026 East 54th Street, Indianapolis, In 46220
If you want to visit Ada, please me a call (317) 640-7096 or call Ardis at (317) 871-4800
I will be gone for 2 weeks but feel free to come by or bring lunch to Ardis
4/4/08
We settled down at American Village this afternoon. She got her private room and they rearranged the furniture just for her. She seems to be more carm and peaceful. Strang place to be for me since I have nerver been to the nursing home before. I hope they take good care of Ada.
4/1/08
Ada moved into room 4039 on the 4th floor today. It is a step down. No monitor in her room which means no more munber to worry about. She is not in critical condition any more. It is more laid back on this floor. I got a roll bed to sleep on. Slepping on the chair for a month, I'm not sure I can sleep well tonight. Tomorrow I will visit a few nursing homes to see if they will accept Ada.
4/1/08
Yesterday they told me that Ada will be moving to 5th Floor, Neuro unit, but she might go down to 4th floor today. Who knows, may be the nurses on the 4th floor heard about the candy. We have to look for the place for Ada to stay after she gets out of the hospital. She can't go to Rehab yet, a nursing home, may be. This is very fustrated and confusing process, I just want to take her home.
She is doing fine today.
3/31/08
It had been a month already and we are still waiting for Ada. She can be completely off the vent or oxygen at this point. This is good for her but we run into the problem that she won't be qualified to go to Seton. We have to find another facilities for her, may be Rehab Center. One thing is, they won't throw her out of the hospital, promise.
Ada moves her right hand and fingers more. I am working on it, she must be tried of hearing me telling her to move her fingers by now.
Various music from several IPods are playing all day. I also read out loud from Win's book, and Abby comes in the evening to read Harry Potter to her.
3/28/08
Friday afternoon and Ada is breathing on her own without the ventilator. The nurse also put her up on a chair. Kudo for Jennifer, she is brave enought to do this with the help of other nurses on 6th floor. Everyone is so happy including Ada. :)
More good news tomorrow, I hope.
3/28/08
She slept well last night, must be some medicine they gave her. This morning she moves her right arms and her right hand more. Left arm will be trapped in the splint off and on all day. She also be able to breath on her own more and more. No word of when we will be moving to Seton.
3/27/08
The brain is still swallon, so no surgery this week. Imagine having one surgery each week, I don't think people my age can handle that. She is strong and fighting. The nurse gave her a bath today, so was sleeping peacefully while I left.
3/26/08
The doctor took all of the staples out of her head today. She was pretty mad, I can tell. They took her down for c-scan, she might get her flap back on her skull on Friday. Which mean another round of staples on her head. Her left arm is getting stiff, so the adjustable cast will be put in her arm to keep it straight. We need to start excercise her arms, other than that, she is pretty much the same, may be more alert.
Seton will have a bed for her pretty soon so we can move out of the hospital. Maybe early next week.
Hugs
Ponsawan
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4 comments:
It's such a tough balancing act, Pons!! You are doing great, but do listen to Neuro Psychologist at least a little bit. I think moving your table away is a good idea, also getting out a little bit more. You don't want to burn out! Sending big hugs to you and to Ada.
Thank you for the update. I know it's difficult, but I too think moving your table is a good idea. It's a little thing you can do and it may make a big difference. Who knows what will come of it, but it's worth a try. I admire your perseverance and endless supply of patience and love. Keep up the wonderful work. I always look at your polymer art and think your creativity is an important outlet for you. Your work is so lovely.
My dear Ponsawani and Ada,
You both continue to be an inspiration to me with your example of unconditional love, dedication and perseverance for each other. I think therapy once a month is not enough and that THANKS to ADA and YOU Ada is able to do all what she does TODAY. So keep up the good work, don't stop!
A thought that might or might not work; only you can decide, though.... When the therapist and nurse are working with her then let them work with her and you work somewhere else and give them space to help Ada grow in other dimensions. Take a break and let it all flow through your self-therapy: your creative work!
You are the BEST and I LOVE you and send you many HUGS and KISSES, your BSU friends
Jim+,
I feel your frustration and you sound like you are so alone.
Now I realize that writing a blog and talking with people through it cannot compare to real human touch and physical contact. You are trying hard 24/7 to heal Ada and yourself. Though the doctor said stop doing that, but if I were you, I have to trust them completely to hear what they tell me.
Somehow, I did not hear that the medical and theraputist team won your trust. I hope you can find a quiet place to rest your mind and ease your anxiety. You need a mental break.
As a former Buddhist, I remember being told to rely on myself; a relentless pressure to fight because it is all up to me. When Nathan had a motorcycle accident,a Christian me,learnt to step out on faith and cast the burden to God. I did let God take care of everything and I rested.
I am praying for you. I know you are much stronger than I am. May you find peace in all situations.
Much love and respect,
Your friend, Yui
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