Dear Ada: Random Thoughts

Friday, April 24, 2009

Random Thoughts

Just thought I would drop in with some thoughts...
Ada came home from the hospital on Monday...she was feeling better and she was Bored with a capital "B" of being in the hospital and in bed for a week. There is so much to be astounded by what Ada is doing. I think back to last spring when she was in and out of the hospital several times and then the endless days of the nursing home and even though we lived through it... seems like it must have happened to someone else. I guess the brain has a way of blocking out some of your darkest moments when you have new things to look forward to....

Ada is returning to her old self and even more so...since she came home she seems restless ready to bust out...this makes you smile and laugh but we have to remember Ponsawan is with her all day everyday because some of things she is trying to do could do her harm...she has to be watched at all times. A nurse said to me in the hospital she was very moved by Ada's mother's devotion...I too marvel at my friends' caring ways but even as she knows what Ada needs she is only one person.

So, if you have an hour or two to visit in the next few weeks please know how welcomed you are and how much it would mean to Ponsawan. Ada needs someone to "play" with her. So if you find you have the time for a visit it would be most appreciated...it might give Ponsawan a little time for herself.

I am leaving tomorrow to visit my son in Korea. Kyle has been there now three months and he needs his summer clothes...so I thought why not deliver them in person. This is my third trip in as many years and this time I am on my own most of the time...I really want to just sit , relax and think about how fortunate I am to be blessed with two gifts from Korea that are my sons. It was the devotion of their Korean mothers that made it possible for me to celebrate Mother's Day these past 25 years. Two years ago I celebrated Mother's Day in Korea with Kyle's Korean mother as I will this year. He is a very special son to us both.

But my"daughter" and her mother will never be far from my thoughts as I know they are never far from all of yours. You are Ponsawan's strength.... never forget how important you all are in this healing process.

Take care,
Ardis

4 comments:

Frances said...: Ardis,

Thank you for your comments. I wish I could drop by often to be with Ada, Ponsawani and the boys, but I live in Sarasota, FL. From afar, I try to keep in touch and I am there with my thoughts ad prayers.

I am so excited to read about Ada's continuous improvements!!!

Have a deep, meaningful and special visit and mother's day! Thank you for all you do for Ponsawani and Ada.

Have a safe trip...some day I hope to meet you in person and THANK YOU for being such a wonderful friend to Ponsawani and a "mother" to Ada.

Fondly,

Frances; April 24, 2009 at 9:48 PM
Anonymous said...: Thanks so much Ardis!! I know so many of us visit here almost daily to find out any little tidbit on Ada's healing journey, and Ponsawan's amazing love.

I wish you a very wonderful, joyful time with your son.

God keep you safe on your trip.; April 25, 2009 at 9:05 AM
cbarniak said...: Ardis, have a wonderful and safe trip! I hope you and Kyle enjoy your time. Im moving to Atlanta next weekend and am stopping through Indy to hopefully see the family. All your love and support is continuously appreciated

Tina; April 26, 2009 at 6:38 AM
CU#1835024 said...: Ardis,
You are so special and have a loving touch in words and in deeds.

Strength can be share back and forth and it only increases, never diminishes. Thanks for reminding me that.

Love,
Yui; April 27, 2009 at 6:00 AM

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This is a blog for my daughter, Ada Silapiruti. Together we will celebrate her life as a good daughter, a good sister, a good student, and a good friend. We will write about her past, her present and her future. Some day when she wakes up, she can learn about herself, about her life, about her family, and about her friends who will continue to love her and support her.

Ada was in a tragic car accident on March, 2008. She was on her way to Broad Ripple to pick up a friend who was drunk but her car got hit by the drunk driver. She is lucky to be alive but suffers a severe brain damage.
Ada is now living at home with her family and her nurses who help taking care of her. She is making progress everyday, small, but a giant step for her. She is able to walk with the walker and eating solid food. She smiles and laughes a lot. Come by to say hello, may be she still remember you.

UPDATE ON ADA

9/20/08
Now that Ada is home. I will not be blogging as often. She is strong and healthy, not too many things, health wise, to worry about. If you want to visit her, please call me at 640-7096. We should be at home, and hopefully she will get to go to RHI for therapy soon.

6/23/08
We went to see Dr. Callahan today. He is Dr. Jude replacement. Needless to say, they are just the same. May be this is so typical for Neuro doctor to act this way. We had scheduled Ada to have her bone flap put back on Thursday, July 3rd. I was laughing because I used to metion that we will get the best view of the firework display on 4th of July from the roof top of Methodist Hospital and we will be there. Ada will love that. Some say that many patients do get better after putting the flap back on. We sure hope so.

6/8/08
Back at the nursing home now, I trying to learn the new feeding and her med schedule. Ada get a slow feeding from 8 to 8 so when she has to go somewhere, she won't miss the feeding. She actually gains 2 lbs this month. She can communicate through her eyes and she makes all kind of faces to let you know how she feels or what she wants. Can't wait to see what she can do next week.

6/1/08
I made a mistake on my airline reservation, so I will stop in Hong Kong with Yui for a couple of days. I'll be home on Thursday, I promise.

5/15/08
Here is the address for American Village
2026 East 54th Street, Indianapolis, In 46220
If you want to visit Ada, please me a call (317) 640-7096 or call Ardis at (317) 871-4800
I will be gone for 2 weeks but feel free to come by or bring lunch to Ardis

4/4/08
We settled down at American Village this afternoon. She got her private room and they rearranged the furniture just for her. She seems to be more carm and peaceful. Strang place to be for me since I have nerver been to the nursing home before. I hope they take good care of Ada.

4/1/08
Ada moved into room 4039 on the 4th floor today. It is a step down. No monitor in her room which means no more munber to worry about. She is not in critical condition any more. It is more laid back on this floor. I got a roll bed to sleep on. Slepping on the chair for a month, I'm not sure I can sleep well tonight. Tomorrow I will visit a few nursing homes to see if they will accept Ada.

4/1/08
Yesterday they told me that Ada will be moving to 5th Floor, Neuro unit, but she might go down to 4th floor today. Who knows, may be the nurses on the 4th floor heard about the candy. We have to look for the place for Ada to stay after she gets out of the hospital. She can't go to Rehab yet, a nursing home, may be. This is very fustrated and confusing process, I just want to take her home.
She is doing fine today.

3/31/08
It had been a month already and we are still waiting for Ada. She can be completely off the vent or oxygen at this point. This is good for her but we run into the problem that she won't be qualified to go to Seton. We have to find another facilities for her, may be Rehab Center. One thing is, they won't throw her out of the hospital, promise.
Ada moves her right hand and fingers more. I am working on it, she must be tried of hearing me telling her to move her fingers by now.
Various music from several IPods are playing all day. I also read out loud from Win's book, and Abby comes in the evening to read Harry Potter to her.

3/28/08
Friday afternoon and Ada is breathing on her own without the ventilator. The nurse also put her up on a chair. Kudo for Jennifer, she is brave enought to do this with the help of other nurses on 6th floor. Everyone is so happy including Ada. :)
More good news tomorrow, I hope.

3/28/08
She slept well last night, must be some medicine they gave her. This morning she moves her right arms and her right hand more. Left arm will be trapped in the splint off and on all day. She also be able to breath on her own more and more. No word of when we will be moving to Seton.

3/27/08
The brain is still swallon, so no surgery this week. Imagine having one surgery each week, I don't think people my age can handle that. She is strong and fighting. The nurse gave her a bath today, so was sleeping peacefully while I left.

3/26/08
The doctor took all of the staples out of her head today. She was pretty mad, I can tell. They took her down for c-scan, she might get her flap back on her skull on Friday. Which mean another round of staples on her head. Her left arm is getting stiff, so the adjustable cast will be put in her arm to keep it straight. We need to start excercise her arms, other than that, she is pretty much the same, may be more alert.
Seton will have a bed for her pretty soon so we can move out of the hospital. Maybe early next week.
Hugs
Ponsawan

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